Free Yourself From the Fog of Storytelling

I had a realization this morning. I’ve spent most of my life living in a fog of my own making, my own history. You see, I created these carefully crafted stories to explain my past or justify my actions. The more I told them the more I believed it. It’s as if I wore a fog machine backpack and with each story I told I pushed the activation button and sprayed another dense layer of fog. The fog created a reality of loneliness where I actually told my family I was destined to live a solo life. The miracle is this, by shifting my perspective and the stories I tell I  reclaimed connection in ways I never imagined possible. My life is now rich and full of meaningful connections. 

Have you found yourself telling stories? I crafted a full monologue on how I knew I was destined to live a solo life. I’d list reasons such as my weight and how I’ve been received in the past. I’d share examples of how shallow men were. I went on and on in complete victim mode. I had convinced myself that God simply didn’t want me to have relationships in my life, romantic or non-romantic alike. Each time I dwelled on these stories in conversations with myself or others I simply reinforced the wall of fog all around me and created the very life experience I said I didn’t want. What I focused my attention on is exactly what I cultivated in my life.

Now I will not say I didn’t have beautiful people around me over the years. That’s simply not true. I do know, however, I limited the quality of interactions and bonding by focusing on the stories I had built my life around. Instead of bringing in love and inspiration I created interactions based on trauma bonding. This did a disservice as it pulled us both down into negative spirals. For example, I remember having some friends where all we did was talk about how “lame” the dating scene was. There was so much more we could talk about though! To some degree I started noticing this and began to be selective about who to hangout with and what parties to go to. But I over-corrected and went into isolation. It didn’t occur to me that there might be another possibility, to simply stop repeating the same old stories and come up with a new narrative and see where that led. 

It all began to shift for me when I learned and accepted that I am a creator not a victim, the power of choice, and essential truth of accountability. It is by practicing and now by embodying these truths I am able to take off the fog machine back pack and actually consciously create a new life full of love and connection. 

What does this have to do with energy healing? Everything. We are creators. And as creators we generate energy through our thoughts and words. Experienced energy healers will not just assist in the releasing of heavy energy like sadness and unworthiness. They can also assist individuals like you from accumulating and generating heavy energy in the first place through coaching.