How Getting Ghosted Was The Best Gift.
For the last several years I’ve been closed off to most meaningful relationships, especially when it comes to dating. But I recently took a leap and dated someone I could actually see a future with. The short time we were dating felt incredible, I was full of joy and giddy energy. I forgot what it was like to feel that way! When it abruptly ended, I was disappointed. Still, I was determined to not fall into old patterns. I know this sounds cheesy but there was a moment when I actually said to myself, “I choose courage.”
Courage to me meant committing to find and learn the lessons God/Source/Universe wanted me to learn from this experience. And wouldn’t you know it, each of the daily lessons from A Course in Miracles (ACIM) was there to support me in my discovery process. It could not have been more perfect! Everytime my mind started wandering into old thought patterns (aka energetic patterns) I pulled myself out with either an affirmation, a ACIM lesson of the day, or simply asked “What is the medicine?” and waited or gardened in silence. What I discovered completely rocked my world. Here’s the rundown…
I get to love myself so much that when others choose not to I don’t fall into old patterns like self blaming or concluding “I’m not good enough.”
I choose to look past my own desires or outcomes and look to what God/Source/Universe intended for me from that relationship or situation. As I do, trust grows and beauty is truly found all around me.
I am committed to standing in my power in relationships (aka am secure in who I am) and want the same in a partner.
Individuals show up in my life in the way that is best for me and my evolution. I wouldn’t change this experience for anything.
I choose to stop waiting to create a life around a partner. Instead, claim my perfect life dream and a beautiful love partner will show up to fit it. How cool is that?!
It is possible to love without the fear of being hurt. Not all relationships have to end in pain and suffering!
I choose to release the role of “punisher” or “jailer” and free myself and those around me from an energy that is choking, stifling and wholly unnecessary. I think this is going to be a whole other blog post…
These lessons from getting ghosted were incredibly powerful and custom made for me. But I also learned something deeper about the levels of consciousness and the process of moving from one state to the next. These lessons represent the characteristics of individuals living in the state of Neutrality, the next level of consciousness or vibration that I am building up to. Courage, which happens to be the very state of consciousness I am in, was the very key to unlock these beautiful truths of Neutrality.
