Most of us have heard the widely accepted definition of insanity– doing the same thing over again expecting different results. Does anyone find it ironic that we keep doing the same thing with mental health and keep expecting different results?

For years the only time I could get relief from the depression or negative self-talk I experienced was through a session with my energy healer practitioner. It was as if I were an addict looking to “get my fix”. Looking back, I see that we had co-created a client/practitioner experience that was simply not empowering for me. This is why I am passionate about empowering clients to awaken their own connection to energy.

I created stories to explain my past or justify my actions. The more I told these stories the more I believed them. It’s as if I wore a fog machine backpack and with each story I told I pushed the activation button and sprayed another dense layer of fog…by shifting my perspective and the stories I tell I reclaimed connection in ways I never imagined possible.

These lessons from getting ghosted were incredibly powerful and custom made for me. But I also learned something deeper about the levels of consciousness and the process of moving from one state to the next. These lessons represent the characteristics of individuals living in the state of Neutrality, the next level of consciousness or vibration that I am building up to. Courage, which happens to be the very state of consciousness I am in, was the very key to unlock these beautiful truths of Neutrality.

Those living in the state of Desire live by the creed, “I’ll be happy when…” These individuals are enslaved by the quest for external validation in the form of status symbols. However, there is so much more energy here than the other lower states of consciousness that it can actually be a springboard into higher states of consciousness. That, my friends, is something to celebrate.

Those who live in fear experience the emotion of anxiety more often than not and view the world as hazardous, frightening and full of traps waiting to catch them. Their God-view is punitive and they often recoil or withdraw from the world around them. Individuals suffering from the fear vibration often seek strong leaders who appear to have overcome fear to assist them in conquering fear themselves. Unfortunately, in the process of searching for a strong leader, an individual stuck in fear may settle for co-dependent relationships that enable them to reinforce the fear vibration. 

Individuals caged by grief experience a world view that life is tragic and that all good things undoubtedly come to an end. Those living in the vibration of grief are constantly reliving the past and experiencing regret. They navigate the world from despondency and even view God as disdainful. Trust in a higher power may wane for those lost in grief.

Those who are chained to the vibration of apathy hold a life view that reflects hopelessness and emotions of despair. This combination of perspective and emotion (energy in motion) leads the individual to live in abdication, where they just don’t act or see opportunities to act. The future looks bleak and they depend on the care of others to lift them. They are blind to their own accountability in how they got there.

Those who live in a vibration of Guilt live in the world of black and white, of good and evil, perpetrator or victim. The predominant emotional state is Blame and the view on life is that it is full of evil. In this state, their God view is one that is vindictive. Whether they realize it or not, individuals live in a destructive state. Instead of creating and contributing abundance, they tear it down.

What’s the one underlying feeling that you experience on a daily basis? How does this underlying feeling influence your thought patterns, interactions with others, and the flow of your life? This one underlying feeling is a reflection of your level of consciousness, or vibrational frequency.

Healing is messy. Issues you previously thought were resolved often pop up again when you least expect it. When that happens, chances are you are dealing with the shadow and the shadow effect.

Once I understood that the benefit I got from the pain-body was to help me assimilate into society and a path that really wasn’t the best for me, the negative feelings dissipated and were replaced with confidence and conviction.

As we feed the pain-body negative emotions and thoughts it deeply intertwines with our own energy field. It is initially hard to release the negative emotions and thought patterns because they are so automatic that we think that is just who we are. But then it becomes hard to let go for a different reason— we actually benefit from the pain in some way and are therefore resistant to letting go.

For years the mountains were my refuge. But suddenly I couldn’t go a quarter mile before I would break down and find myself kneeling on the ground and crying from what felt like the depth of my soul. This is when I started separating myself from my pain-body by stating one simple sentence, “You are not me.”

Everyone has a pain-body or a mass of accumulated energy intertwined with their own biofield. The density, however, changes from person to person. For some the pain-body is dormant and awakened occasionally while others seem to live in it. Begin to diminish your pain-body today through this simple practice.

As an energy healer I help clients shift their energy. Imagine an airplane that is off course by 5 degrees. I essentially support clients to override their flight path and get the plane back on track. With every shift in energy, the client resonates closer to their true energy frequency. Clients integrate this upgraded frequency into their lives through acceptance and openness.