Map of Consciousness: Level of Grief
In this series we delve deeper into David R. Hawkins Map of Consciousness. My intention is to assist readers in discovering their baseline vibration (where they are now), where they are headed next, and even celebrate with them as they move from one level to the next.
Level of Consciousness: Grief
Frequency: 75 Hertz
Definition:
We most often associate grief with the loss of a loved one. However, it can be applied anytime we are faced with the challenge of moving from one reality that we actually want to a reality that we do not want. This can include the loss of a job, a life with a prospective partner, the realization that you may never be a biological parent and so on. The truth is, most of us experience periods of grief over a lifetime. However, it is possible to become chronically stuck in this vibration until one decides to change and take committed action to escape.
The Life Experience of Grief:
Individuals caged by grief experience a world view that life is tragic and that all good things undoubtedly come to an end. Those living in the vibration of grief are constantly reliving the past and experiencing regret. They navigate the world from despondency and even view God as disdainful. Trust in a higher power may wane for those lost in grief.
I’ve seen many friends experience grief after the end of a relationship or marriage. Those who live in grief seem to adopt the mindset that loss is the standard in life and they begin to experience loss in more frequency whether it be the loss of friends, a job, or even their faith.
I personally experienced an extended period of grief when I realized my life wasn’t going to look the way I was taught growing up. I was past normal baby bearing years, was still single (still am :) ), I quit my safe corporate career and was starting life over as an energy healer. Definitely not how I envisioned life panning out as a young girl. I’ve literally watched my emotions climb up the vibration ladder from humiliation, blame, despair, regret and so on. But now I see that my dreams and appreciation are evolving with each increase in vibration. Now that I am finally in the vibration of courage, some of these dreams are coming back but in a different form, unique and custom made for me by me, not anyone else.
Are You Living in the Grief Vibration? 10 Questions to Ask Yourself
Have you experienced loss in your life and are still wishing life was the way it was? Do you find yourself grieving a past boyfriend, not because you loved him but because you loved the “idea” of him? Did you experience loss at an early age in life and find that you are constantly experiencing loss in other ways? If you answered yes to these questions, you may be living from the vibration of grief.
Ways to Pull out of Grief
Here are a few tools I’ve used to pull myself out of losses like heartbreak, a career change, and even through the loss of the potential of being a bio-mom. Fortunately, I have not had to endure the loss of a close friend or family member through death. I am only writing to that which I have experienced.
Ask what is the medicine? What is it that God really wanted me to get out of this situation? By asking this question each time I experience a loss a clear message has emerged. The lesson is I get to love myself first and foremost. That I get to learn how to be there for myself, stand in my power and always look to what God wants me to learn instead of my mind or ego.
What expectations did I impose on the situation? This is similar to the first question but still different enough. When we ask to see what expectations we are imposing, we begin to widen our awareness so we can actually see our expectations are not always aligned with God’s. When I become aware of my own expectations, I can start the process of letting them go and trusting God again.
Write a letter but (don’t necessarily send it). Write a thank you letter to the person or situation. Share some of the breakthroughs and aha moments that came through the experience. Forgive and thank the situation for being the perfect moment to assist you in your growth. If you write this letter a few times, you will see the message and tone begin to shift to a softer vibration over the course of a few months. It is definitely not easy to write, but it can be very therapeutic if it calls to you.
